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Saturday, January 31, 2009

Choose your friends wisely !!

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A month ago, spruhaa (my daughter) had an incident at her school. She is in her UKG and had joined hands with another classmate of hers and were troubling a third girl in a very ackward way .... This girl who is being troubled is a special child in the sense that this child is very shy, still does not know to communicate well with others and supposedly is suffering from a very high inferiority complex :(((

Spruhaa's teacher in class it seems was watching Spruhaa all thru this episode and finally called Spruhaa, warned her of mis-behavior and sent her out of the class for 5 minutes ....

Spruhaa's teacher narrated the entire incident to me when I went to pick up spruhaa from school that day and told me that she was surprised to see Spruhaa act like the way she did with the other girl !! :(( (For people who dont know spruhaa, she is a very emotional, considerate and a very reasonable girl who is also very sensitive to other people around her) Even I was surprised to hear that Spruhaa did behave that way :((

One thing that Spruhaa's teacher said at the end of our conversation stayed with me and will stay with me & in me all thru my life. It was like that punchline from an ad or a rajnikanth movie !! She said, 'Spruhaa, in life always learn to choose your friends wisely' !!

It is not that this statement is something new to me or anyone or that we have never heard of it. It hit me really hard coz' it was said to my daughter in front of me in a certain context. Also, I dont know if Spruhaa understood the inherent meaning of that statement!!

I did not scold spruhaa that day or any other day for that matter, but I continue to think about that statement 'atleast once every day' ... and keep wondering that it is soooo very important in life ......

I think choosing the 'right' friends will give the kid that kinda of positive vibrations, thoughts, ideas, avenues, opportunities, exposure that otherwise will be lacking ....

Having said that, I also start thinking about the '6 honest serving men' (the how, when, where, who, what and why's ) ... how do I choose the 'right' friends, who helped me do that ... does the onus again falls back on the parents ................. not sure :(((

HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

7 comments:

apoorva said...

I actually couldn't believe and read it twice to confirm that what I read was correct because as far as I know my little sis, is humble and very friendly with everyone. I still say, SHE IS.
But you know, sometimes a bad company can change us. Their influence on us will be so much that we change without our knowledge.
Things like these get worse if we scold the children for their mistakes. We should patiently handle this. Firstly we need to find out what is that bad influence and then need to make Spruhaa recognise it correctly. At the same time we should be careful enough not to hurt anyone.
Thats all I can say uncle.

ಶಂಕರ ಪ್ರಸಾದ said...

REALLY A FOOD FOR THOUGHT BRO...

sandhyabhargava said...

kids at the age of 6 finds it difficult to choose their friends as who is good or who is not,they will be friendly with everyone & that too of their age group..................
i think as they grow,they will understand slowly & we should also keep telling her.spruhaa is very very friendly & innocent also,we r lucky to have her as our daughter :)
GOD....BLESS HER GOOD ALWAYS!

Hukunda said...

@apoorva: With bujji, I think it was a one off case as we all know that she is a gem of a child ! :)

Hukunda said...

@Sandhya: That is where parents come in to guide the kids ... alveene :)

Hukunda said...

@sandhya: God has been kind to us. We definitely are blessed to have Spruhaa as our daughter ! ... totally agreed, sweetheart :)

apoorva said...

Of course uncle... My sis is really a gem... As Sandhya has told, she will learn it as she grows..Our EXPERIENCES teaches a lot.. All she need is you people's support... :)